Mindfulness – a poem

 

This poem was the the result of a project I did for my Dharma Study Group.  I looked at the fifth precept:

“With mindfulness pure and radiant, I purify my mind”

It began with a mind map which is the main picture at the top of this post.  I love mind maps.  I first came across them when I was teaching in Milton Keynes.  Tony Buzan has written several books on the subject of mind mapping – well worth a look.  Mind mapping is a great technique for brain storming any subject and organising your resultant thoughts.  It also lets you use all of those colourful pens!!  Then there was a stage when I tried to organise my thoughts in a more linear way.  I was bored by that though and it didn’t seem like a good ending for the project.

In my mind map and more organised writing, I looked at mindfulness as being multi faceted:

  • being present, in the now, in the moment.  Not worrying about the future or being anxious about the past.  No regret, no fear.  Be in the moment, enjoying whatever it is I am doing without distraction
  • knowing the purpose of the activity to my life, my goal, my direction.  Is this activity beneficial to me?  Am I benefiting myself or others by doing this?  In the words of the Olympic Medallist, Ben Hunt Davis, “Will it make the boat go faster”?
  • being vigilant.  Guarding against unskilful actions of body, speech and mind.  Am I acting with metta?  Am I being generous?  Am I being truthful?

And whatever I am doing, even if it does not seem to be a “good” thing to do; it might be a frivolous thing, just fun or something to do at that moment.  But whatever it is – am I actually noticing what I am doing?  Am I actually watching Netflix?  Am I actually tasting the bar of (vegan) chocolate?  Am I actually listening to my friend?  We all seem to spend so much of our lives multi-tasking!

Somehow – I am not sure how exactly – this turned into a poem.  I haven’t written a poem in years – probably since school.  And at school, there were always rules to follow – make sure it rhymes or “write it in the style of….”

So here it is – the completed poem.

This moment is a precious gift.
Imagine a butterfly drifting in and perching gently on your hand.
Use your eyes to photograph her beauty.
Be gentle ….  Don’t move your hand or make sudden movements.
This is a special moment.  This butterfly trusts you to do the best by her
Don’t harm her
Don’t scare her
Treat her well.
This butterfly will never come back to you again…  Her life is short as it is.
She will fly off – don’t try to stop her.
Do not chase after her.
Just let her go.

This moment is a precious gift.
A present given to you by a special friend to use well.
Open the present with attention and care.
Read the hand written card.
Notice the beautiful wrapping paper and ribbon.
Fold the paper carefully so that it can be treasured and used again; Tie the ribbon in your hair.
The present is fragile; it will not last.
But is given with such love and devotion.
Use the present wisely.  Use the present with love.
One day that gift may be broken – do not weep.  Do not cry.
Your friend loves you still.

This moment is a precious gift.
Imagine a special bunch of flowers ready to be placed on the shrine.
They have been picked with loving care.
Look at their bright colours; notice their green leaves.
Arrange them with care
Show them to their best advantage.
Treat them gently – they are delicate.
When they begin to fade, remove them from the shrine
Do not mourn their death
They were never going to last more than that brief time.
The shrine will be beautiful again.

This moment is a precious gift.
Use it well.
Use it wisely.
Use it with intention.
Use it without distraction.
This moment is a precious gift.
Use it, be deep within it then…

Let it go.

Going forth

Last night I managed to get to a Sangha night for the first time in ages. It was a special night. We were celebrating the going forth of a dear friend. I haven’t known her that long but she is in my heart forever. She is the most wise, the most spiritual, the most caring person I have ever met. She is going on her three month ordination retreat in Spain. She is climbing a mountain- quite literally. She will come back with a different name; she will come back as the wonderful person she is but more so.

Ordination – such a beautiful and serious thing! Takes a lot of work, certainty and courage. I will do this one day. I am far from ready to go on the journey but I can start to prepare.

Go forth Alex. Go well. Sadhu

Death Cafe

At a Death Cafe people drink tea, eat cake and discuss death. Our aim is to increase awareness of death to help people make the most of their (finite) lives.

https://deathcafe.com/

Today I attended my first Death Cafe.  It was arranged by three Buddhists and held in the space where Buddhist Meetings are held – but it was not a Buddhist event.  It was attended by people volunteering and working at the local hospice as well as Buddhists and people interested in discussing death over tea / coffee and cake.

The agenda was not set.  There were groups of chairs arranged in three circles.  We all chose a chair and sat down on it.  After an introduction which talked about the purpose of the cafe, the rules (respect, what is said in the room stays in the room – that sort of thing) we sat and talked.

I expected it to be awkward!  No, it definitely wasn’t.  The conversation just flowed.  My group covered all sorts of aspects of death (the lead up, what happens afterwards, wills, funerals, the impermanence of life….).  There was discussion; there was laughter.

I am continuing to be inspired by the people I meet, the conversations I have.  This morning brought me closer to someone I already know from the meetings – we are going out for coffee soon – and I met new people.

A  few months ago I would not have dreamt of going to an event like this.  I would have found it weird!  It would not have been “my thing”.  I am very happy that it is now definitely “my sort of thing”.

Today…

Today has been a different sort of day.  It has been an extremely wet and miserable day – one of those designed to put anyone in a bad mood.  A day which makes sensible people retreat indoors with a hot drink and a box set.  Me being me – I have been out on a couple of walks and have got soaked each time.  The first time I took a very grumpy Pretzel and the second time I took pity on her and went on my own.  I think that she may have forgiven me by now.

Today has been a thinking, reflecting, growing sort of day.    I have been listening to and learning from some very spiritually aware people.

I started the day with a Metta Meditation led by Tara Brach.  This was a lovely meditation led by a very softly spoken woman.  Follow this link to learn more about her – https://www.tarabrach.com/

 I then listened to Russell Brand’s podcast with Tony Robbins on my first walk this morning – a very different experience.  The energy coming off these two inspiring men was insane!  This is well worth a listen!   https://www.russellbrand.com/podcast/056-meeting-a-mentor-with-tony-robbins/

Later,  I went onto Discovery 5 and watched a couple of episodes of Ben Fogle’s “New Lives in the Wild”.  Randi, the first Norwegian woman to climb Everest was delightful!  So charismatic and happy; such a courageous and spirited woman. https://www.my5.tv/ben-fogle-new-lives-in-the-wild/season-7/episode-4

It is now early evening and I am looking forward to watching “Strictly Come Dancing” with my girls.  It is musical night so should be amazing to watch.  I admire those celebrities so much – how do they learn to dance like that?

Today has been a day which has made me even more determined to keep to my path.  To learn from and follow the Dharma and to learn to be happy  myself and to help others be happy too.    Tara Brach, Russell Brand, Tony Robbins, Ben Fogle, Randi – thank you for your inspiration.